(Interessante articolo di:
"Femminismo a Sud)"
"In tema di prevenzione di violenza domestica ma anche in tema di prevenzione di violenza maschile realizzata per interposta persona o tribunale.
Le donne vittime di violenza e tutte le persone che si occupano di lotta contro la violenza maschile, ovviamente ci riferiamo a quelle che non lo sanno già, devono sapere che:
- non basta avere ragione per avere ragione;
- non basta sapere di avere subito violenza quando sei in un’aula di un tribunale;
- non basta sapere che vostro figlio è stato abusato dal padre quando sei in un’aula di un tribunale.
Per avere ragione devi dimostrare che hai ragione. Ricordiamo che ci occupiamo di questo perché la violenza maschile per procura, giudiziaria, con metodi (legali), come volete chiamarla, è una violenza che sta massacrando centinaia di donne condannandole al silenzio, terrorizzate , sotto minaccia e costante intimidazione di avvocati senza scrupoli al servizio di ex mariti che si servono della legge (del più forte) per torturare la propria ex, sottrarle tutto quello che ha, con richieste che vanno dal risarcimento monetario di decine di migliaia di euro fino al carcere per quelli che proprio vogliono vedere le ex mogli in galera.
E’ un metodo privo di conseguenze, there is no blood, no visible injuries, it is not prosecuted, but stalking is a form of harassment that makes use of the propaganda put forth in the separated fathers.
If you have suffered violence from your ex-husband broke it reported, because he can count on a misogynist society that will support every time you say you're a liar, since it can rely on lawyers just to make you win spitting blood, because it's surrounded by people who exacerbate the conflict to achieve your success to the benefit of the class, because its goal is to take revenge on you and not deal with the consequences, since in Italy it is women who suffer violence to prove what they say because they are the ones who suffer the real process to the benefit of the accused, you must ensure:
- have valid records;
- have a good lawyer;
- not to be hasty;
- to be able to patiently build a canvas that will encompass everything exactly what your ex gave you.
If your partner beaten, raped, psychologically harasses, harms your child, be sure to report it before:
- record your conversations
- filming the violence;
- do report (by doctors ) - with photographs of the visible damage - all the scratches, bruises, the lesions, cracks, damage to physical, biological, psychological, that your partner has inflicted or inflicted to your children;
- retrieve documents, data, files that may be helpful to prove your accusations;
- do not go to home without first having done all this unless you are in imminent danger of death.
Remember that you are experiencing is jail. You are condemned without appeal to a prison from which there will be your jailer out why you have done without pay. So you need to restore balance, safety, strength, and you need to plan your escape secure evidence that will allow him to never, ever pursue you in court. How could do?
- you can make a complaint for libel and slander and ask that you be sentenced to a prison or ruin with a huge claim,
- may seek custody of your children @ @ that according to current laws, ordered by their fathers separated, would be to keep you in check, in the vicinity, and can come and go when they want out of your life;
- may be assigned an invented syndrome (PAS), saying that the reason why you have complained they have to do with your alleged decision not to let him see your child @ @. In that case could also ask for a prison sentence of the impediment to compensation ratio of @ parent children, even if it was your @ @ children not wanting to see his father;
- can blackmail me, to find many other loopholes to legally persecute you and with you can be blackmailed and threatened to sue any professional, lawyer, expert party, an association that has assisted in your battle for defend its violence.
know that a violent ex-husband does not stop at nothing . Think of the prosecution as to any other type of persecution. You are in front of a person without scruples, supported by other unscrupulous people whose sole purpose is to intimidate women who report and prevent the violence. Are meant to deny that the violence takes place and restore or maintain social privileges and the relationship between men and women who have lost or do not want to lose.
There are men who can kill with a gun, a knife, a hammer, strangled, beaten to death. Well, those are the most stupid because they still have ruined their lives without tasting vengeance that considered a tasty dish.
There are men who want to kill you and you are killing in many ways invisible and between them there is also the prosecution economic embargo. Among these there is also the isolation that create around you threatening all those who could or would help. An isolation achieved wisely with the destruction and dismantling of all structures, such as anti-violence centers, to which you refer.
Men who commit violence are numerous, are smarter, terrorize you, preventing you from talking while they go around on television talk shows to defame.
are the ones who take revenge and never pay the price for what they do.
are the ones who have turned to civil courts and criminal courts of the Inquisition where real professionals, experts, social services are trained and bent to the service of this perfidious logic to ensure impunity for violent males and instead punish the real victims violence.
You must therefore learn that:
- silence does not pay: if you are in situations of blackmail and you say you have to describe what happens to you for what it is, or blackmail, a combination of intimidation, constant threats to your serenity that will take your breath away and every possibility of existence;
- you need to recover evidence of anything, including written conversations that are occurring between you and the former husband, his attorney, has hired professionals to massacre as snipers;
- you require to gain respect as victims: those that you are entitled to speak and not your executioner. Do not let them speak also for you. Do not be stealing the words, air and dignity. Do not let them roam the streets, real and virtual impunity and arrogance, assured that you will never pay to have you in particular and some punch.
You are stronger and - believe it - keep your head in the sand hoping that all steps in the meantime he is calm and not do any good. He did not calm down and you will be and will always remain victims.
You see you too: on the one hand you are told to report and come out the other and yet no one tells you what hell you are going to deal with, how much humiliation, mortification, accusations, only to be defended by a violence that should not be allowed nei confronti di nessuno".