(Dr.Giovanni Low - Psychologist and Psychotherapist)
The award of minor children of separated parents, obviously can not be handled by the judge because the judge made the mistake of managing a 'law equal for everyone. "
fact, "reads the same for all" is always and only half a law, it is fair to say that there is a "law equal for everyone," but at the same time must also be established a "law ad personam" (personal or particular) that must necessarily take into account specific situations and the child's personal, specific and personal situations of the mother, father's personal and specific situations. This is required by the natural existence of a Judgement, accompanied by a Special Guest.
1 - Specific situations of personal and child are the first and most important
to consider: How old were you? He
debilitations special? Develops normal growth, or
early or late growth? Chronological age is
mental age (of cui sono sempre responsabili i genitori)? Con
quale genitore vuole restare? E di quale dei due ha più urgente
necessità?
2 – Situazioni specifiche e personali della madre: quale livello di
simbiosi lega necessariamente ancora la madre alla sua creatura?
Ha eventuali problemi psichici? (dei quali deve tuttavia essere
informata). È capace di non criticare, né di odiare il marito
in presenza del loro bambino? È una persona tranquilla, o è
sempre inquieta, nervosa, sempre scontenta, che critica tutto e
critica tutti? È depressa? Sta bene in salute fisica e psichica?
has enough time to devote to their children? It is permissive
or possessive?
3 - Specific situations and personal father is authoritarian and violent
(father master!)? She knows not to criticize the mother of their son
in his presence? Personally attend the child or the
give to other people? It is honest, fair, balanced
? Economic cooperation, and properly to
own means, to maintain and better child rearing,
even if they are entrusted to the mother?
It is possible that both parents can contraindications have problems of trust, or some of these problems mentioned above, the judge would be forced to choose the least possible harm, as well as the evil imposed on the child by the separation. But if there were problems in both by mortgaging the good upbringing of children, in which case the judge would be forced to rely on relatives in some families, or families arranged the adoption, or even the mere entertainment and hospitality in perpetuity.
Most importantly, the judge did not institutionalize the normal children, because any institution of protection: influences but does not educate, because it is made of rules impositive (as the rules of the barracks, or prisons). Keep in mind the principle that ordinary people: the truth is proposed, not imposed, as the mother discursively offers children behaviors.
The educational institution may be helpful only if it is a sheltered environment and welfare, as they should be weak institutions for mental and physical, as develop creativity, thereby enhancing self-awareness, which is their soul ( ego-consciousness). In fact, everyone identifies with what he does and can do.
It therefore appears that the judge can not, by itself, make decisions consist of many components which are not competent. So
should not continue to drop personal arbitrary decisions on children, as is commonly the Judges Act.
As well as the teeming fathers' associations, conspiracy claims are denied their rights, but the claims are vindictive, and the lookouts are all antieducative.
The natural process of education and responsibility belongs primarily to the mother, who created his creatures physically and consciously and must continue to play this generative process.
But the generation also detachment from, ie: it is growing, as mothers do when they give birth, as mothers do by cutting the umbilical cord, as mothers do, interrupting the sucking milk to their breasts, as mothers do to take care of stopping the physical needs of their children when they reach three years. Especially the mothers know how to make their children self-sufficient (or should know!).
Basically all education undertaken by those who are not mother, is only offset a serious shortage in the existential process of growth of the child, such as medicine is the lack of compensatory health.
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